This week we are going to talk about You. How often do you put some time aside for yourself. For some of us, its juggling family, children, a job, or even owning your own Business. Perhaps even after a long day, it’s cooking, cleaning, paying bills, shopping. Perhaps it’s checking in with your parents to make sure that they are ok. Just reading that back has made me tired. There is also checking up on friends and family who may rely on our support, especially in these times where we are restricted, and can’t just turn up on their doorstep and just give them a hug. Then there is Social Media, where you have a little scroll to see what everyone else is up to, and spend hours when you only meant to be on there for 5 minutes. Do you resonate with any of the above?
As a Therapist myself, my wellbeing is vital in order to support others, therefore It’s my responsibility to fill my own cup before helping others, it’s a little bit like being on a plane and being told to put on your mask before helping others. It’s not being selfish at all. And I have to be honest, there are times I take a step back, and get off the grid for a few days when I need to just nourish myself. And it’s ok for you to do the same.
Planning / Schedule
Planning and scheduling time in for chores, work or even shopping is a great way to ensure you find a way to set some time aside for yourself. If waking up 10 minutes earlier to have that little you time works, that’s great. Find a way to schedule in 10-30 minutes in the day, that works with your busy lifestyle, and you know that you wont be interrupted. Night time generally works for me, as it’s when I find time to do some journaling, a meditation, self development, a long bath with essential oils or even anything else that takes my fancy at the time. Be super flexible with this, you don’t want this to feel like another chore. If you are a someone who binges on Netflix/Television daily, perhaps cut this time down to fewer minutes, to allow self care time.
This is really a tricky one for some of us. Setting boundaries is super important in establishing your identity, and crucial for your mental and emotional wellbeing. Everything in life is energy, it’s about giving and receiving, and establishing boundaries works in the same way. By saying NO when others have overstepped their boundaries, you are saying YES to yourself. It’s important to note that this is a skill that always can be improved, to avoid people taking advantage of your kindness. Here is some benefits of setting and maintaining healthy boundaries:
- Your life will be less stressful, cluttered, and distracted.
- Experience a new sense of calmness and direction.
- The people who truly care about you will adjust to your new boundaries.
- Over time, you will get better at setting and maintaining boundaries that feel good to you.
- Making more room in your life for the people who appreciate you and enrich your life.
- You start attracting others who have healthy boundaries into your life.
- Ability to focus on enhancing your life rather than repairing it or just surviving each day.
- More energy to pursue your dreams and your life purpose.
- Feeling more hopeful and enthusiastic about your life and your future.
- Feel more in control and equipped to make good decisions.
- You’ll respond immediately and assertively to boundary violations without feeling guilty.
- Being more respectful of other people’s boundaries.
When did you last book a hair appointment? This is a visual, and interesting how we can look and feel better after a hair cut, be it a trim, new style or colour, you come out of the hairdressers feeling new and like you have new found confidence. Your beauty is enhanced and you feel absolutely wonderful. Getting your hair done regularly will keep your appearannce fresh and vitalised. Notice how your posture changes, your shoulders are pulled back, your eyes are not focussed on the floor, and we do this without even thinking. Which brings me to the next topic.
Body language is a nonverbal form of communication to convey feelings or intention. Although I am no expert in the subject, I wanted to touch on the posture and some of the benefits of having a good posture
- Portrays a confident image
- Change your frame of mind
- Improves circulation and digestion
- Helps muscles and joints
- Breathing becomes easier and deeper
Body brushing involves lightly brushing your skin with a dry brush, made from natural hair bristles, to help remove dead skin cells, improve skin tone. The technique has been used for hundreds of years. Body brushing for just three minutes each morning will help improve your circulation and encourage the elimination of excess fluid so that your skin stays fresh, healthy and youthful. Stimulates blood and lymphatic circulation within the skin.
Massage as a healing tool has been around for thousands of years in many cultures. Touching is a natural human reaction to pain and stress, and for conveying compassion and support. Having a massage does more than just relax your body and mind. There are so many benefits to this wonderful technique. There are so many benefits to having a massage and here are just a few
- Improves circulation
- Releases discomfort for low back pain
- Relieves Anxiety
- Boost immunity
I hope you have found these useful. Thanks for reading. Share your thoughts and look out for some new tips next week.
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